How to Have Fun in Bed With Your Partner

Daniel Puble
5 min readDec 15, 2023

Having fun in bed with your partner is all about communication, trust, and creativity. It’s important to establish a comfortable and safe space where both partners feel free to express their desires and fantasies. This can start with simple things like setting the mood with soft lighting, music, or candles. It’s also important to communicate with your partner about what you both enjoy and what you may want to try. This can be done through open and honest conversations or even by trying out new things and seeing how your partner responds. Trust is another crucial element in having fun in bed with your partner. This means being able to let go of any inhibitions or insecurities and being fully present in the moment. It also means respecting each other’s boundaries and being mindful of each other’s comfort levels. Creativity is key in keeping things exciting and fun in the bedroom. This can include trying out new positions, incorporating toys or props, or even role-playing. It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to have fun in bed with your partner, as long as both parties are consenting and enjoying themselves. So don’t be afraid to let your imagination run wild and have fun exploring each other’s desires and fantasies.

Here are some tips on how to have fun in bed with your partner and reignite the spark in your relationship.

1. Create a game

Nothing beats sexual foreplay when it comes to increasing intimacy and increasing excitement! Experiment with different games until you find one that works well with both you and your partner.

One fun option is playing G- rated 10 questions with your partner. One partner thinks of something naughty while the other asks yes/no questions to figure out exactly what it is. This game provides an ideal way to get acquainted with one another more intimately while exploring topics you might otherwise feel too shy to address directly.

Blindfold your partner, then place various sensual objects against their body ice cubes, feather duster feathers, clean hairbrush bristles or hand cream are great examples — that they may touch without knowing. Your partner must then guess which object they are touching in order to maintain an erection more satisfyingly. Make it more exciting by switching up objects or locations and role playing your dirtiest fantasies together this game is guaranteed to ignite both of you!

2. Have a talk

Sprucing up the bedroom requires having an honest conversation with your partner about what works and doesn’t work in terms of positions, toys or role-playing — you will both need to open up to each other about your expectations for changing things up!

Step one in creating an enjoyable date-night is creating a bucket list with low-stress activities and ideas that you both will enjoy together. If something doesn’t appeal to both of you, don’t force it — move onto another item. “Create positive reinforcement whenever possible,” suggests Battle, “This will ensure your partner feels valued and enthusiastic about participating.

Some couples find that sending each other sexual photos and nudes throughout the day keeps them excited for bedtime, while reading erotica can spark sexual discussion. Just make sure that any limits and boundaries are discussed beforehand before diving too deeply. If you need some guidance as far as where to begin, try asking your partner what they like most: they might surprise you by having an unusual position or toy preference that leads to something surprising! Simply ask, listen closely and have fun.

3. Be honest

Honesty is key in any sexual relationship. If you feel awkward discussing these issues, your sexual relationship may not reap all its potential rewards.

Be sure to discuss this issue in an open and sensitive way without making them defensive, such as not after sexual encounter. Furthermore, try not to have this discussion after sexual activity has taken place since your partner may feel particularly vulnerable during this conversation.

When broaching the subject of sexual desire with someone new, it can help to set expectations by explaining why something excites you. For instance, if you are curious about roleplay or BDSM and would like to try it out for the first time, perhaps saying, “I’ve always wanted to try it makes me feel really sensual and powerful.” Such conversations will ultimately lead to amazing sex because your partner will understand what makes you tick and they may become more open-minded to trying new things with you. Though discussing sexual desire can sometimes be awkward at best, doing it openly will lead to greater intimacy that will ensure both partners benefit. Intimacy truly makes everything better!

4. Focus on pleasure, not just orgasm

Many couples make the mistake of only focusing on reaching orgasm during sex. While it’s great to climax, it shouldn’t be the only goal. Instead, focus on pleasure and exploring each other’s bodies. Take the time to touch, kiss, and caress each other. This will not only make sex more enjoyable, but it will also strengthen your emotional connection with your partner.

5. Try something new

While sticking to familiar positions (like those found in the Kama Sutra) or routines is fine, breaking out of your comfort zone and experiencing new sensations can keep the experience fresh and engaging. As your tastes shift over time, exploring these sensations will allow you to rediscover yourself.

Do not turn sexy without using some form of body art: try tracing your partner with ice or engaging in wax play (there are special candles that melt when heated and drip onto skin for sensual pleasure), or adding music as background ambience music can boost libido!

Be creative and devise a sexual bucket list together — not only is this fun but can actually increase sexual satisfaction! A list can serve to try new things in bed or even nonsexual activities like reading romantic stories for each other — this way you can talk about all the ways that both partners feel stimulated; creating such an ambitious list is sure to keep passion alive in any relationship!

6. Keep the romance alive
Sex is not just about physical pleasure; it’s also about emotional intimacy. Make an effort to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Plan date nights, surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, and express your love for each other regularly. When you feel emotionally connected, it will reflect in your sexual experiences as well.

In conclusion, having fun in bed with your partner is all about being open, honest, and adventurous. Remember to communicate, try new things, and keep the romance alive. But most importantly, have a sense of humor and don’t take yourselves too seriously. With these tips, you and your partner can reignite the spark in your relationship and have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life.

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